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How Can Mothers Influence Their Child’s Self-Esteem

Childhood is often portrayed in fairytale colors; it is full of dreams, wonder, and magic. However, the important and difficult process of creating one’s self-image and identity lies beyond these charming tales. Self-esteem plays a key role in this developmental process. Mothers play an essential role in helping their children develop a sense of self-worth since they are the guardians of their child’s early memories and experiences. In order to ensure that child’s self-esteem is firmly rooted in love and confidence, this article explores how moms can positively promote and impact it.

As kids grow up, feeling good about themselves becomes really important. It helps them as they become adults, both in how they feel and how they get along with others. As the creator and nurturer of life, a mother has a significant influence on how her kid develops self-esteem. A mother’s impact goes beyond words; it affects her actions and attitude as well as the nurturing environment she creates. It is clear that a mother’s involvement is crucial in developing self-assured and capable individuals as we look into the many aspects of promoting your child’s self-esteem.

1. Daily Affirmations For Child’s Self-esteem

a. Words of Encouragement: 

A few well-chosen words can be the sunshine on a cloudy day. Telling your child, “I believe in you”, or “You have such a kind heart”, provides a strong belief in their abilities and goodness.

b. Avoid Negative Labels: 

mother talking to child-Child's self-esteem

In moments of anger, filtering our words is crucial. Instead of expressing frustration as, “You’re always so messy,” reframe it as “Let’s work together to keep things tidy.”

2. Active Listening: Let Them Know They’re Heard

a. Value Their Opinions: 

Give them your undivided attention when they share. This tells them that their feelings and thoughts hold value.

b. Encourage Expression: 

Mother talking to Child-Child's self-esteem

Encourage an atmosphere in which they are at ease expressing their thoughts, making sure they never feel suppressed or unheard.

Also read: Cultivating A Positive Self-Image In Children

3. Child’s Self-esteem: Celebrate Efforts, Not Just Outcomes

a. Praise the Journey:

Life is as much about the journey as the destination. Complimenting their hard work and effort, not just the result ensures that they put in honest work.

b. Embrace Failure as a Teacher: 

mother calming the crying child

Shift the focus from the disappointment of failure to the lessons it offers, highlighting the idea that growth often comes from mistakes.

4. Set Realistic Expectations: Chasing Real Goals

a. Celebrate Small Milestones: 

Not every achievement is monumental, but that does not reduce its importance. A small act of kindness can be as valuable as acing an exam.

b. Avoid Comparisons: 


It is unfair to compare a rose to a sunflower. Both are beautiful in their own right. Similarly, parents should not compare children as each child has unique strengths that need to be appreciated. Doing so will only undermine their self-worth.

5. Lead by Example: Children See, Children Do

a. Show Self-love: 

Children mirror adult behaviour. If they see you practicing self-love and self-respect, they internalize these patterns.

b. Admit and Learn from Your Mistakes: 

Mother listening to child

Demonstrating humility and the ability to accept and learn from errors teaches them that it is okay not to be perfect.

6. Encourage Independence: Empower Their Choices

a. Offer Opportunities: 

Let them choose – from what they wear to which activity they would like to engage in. This builds confidence in their decision-making abilities.

b. Trust Their Judgement: 

Mother listening to daughter: Child's self-esteem

While they may occasionally fail, having faith in their choices strengthens their self-belief.

7. Child’s Self-esteem: Create a Supportive Environment

a. Ensure a Safe Haven: 

Home should be a safe space where they feel unconditionally loved, no matter the storms outside.

b. Prioritize Open Communication: 

mother talking to child

Create a space where they can freely share, knowing that they will experience understanding and guidance when heard.

Also read: Effective Communication Tips For Children

It takes time and effort to shape a child’s self-esteem. It is a lovely mixture of tolerance, love, understanding, and direction. As mothers, you have a significant and lasting impact.  You should care for their spirits and minds in addition to their physical needs. By encouraging them, listening to them, praising their efforts, encouraging independence, and creating a loving environment, you can make sure that your kids have strong self-esteem. After all, your confidence in their value is the most long-lasting gift you can give them.

This article is approved by Dr. Minakshi Manchanda, Psychiatrist, Asian Hospital.

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