A Simple Guide for New Parents to Understand the PURPLE Phase of Crying

The "purple crying" phase is a normal but challenging part of early parenting. This guide helps you know what it is, why it happens, and how to deal with it in simple ways. With straightforward explanations, helpful tips, and reassurance, you will feel more prepared to support your baby through this phase.

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Becoming a parent brings joy, as well as confusion. One puzzling experience is the PURPLE crying phase. It can feel overwhelming when you do not know why it happens or how to handle it.Understanding this phase helps soothe your baby and reassures you that it is a normal part of development.What Is the PURPLE Phase of Crying?PURPLE crying means a stage that usually starts when your baby is 2 weeks old and lasts until 3-4 months. During this time, babies cry more and louder than at any other time.It does not mean your baby is in pain or that you are doing something wrong. It is a normal part of infant development.Breaking Down the PURPLE AcronymThe word PURPLE is not about colour—it is an acronym that explains the standard features of this crying phase.P – Peak of crying: Crying increases and may peak around 6-8 weeks.U – Unexpected: Episodes can start and stop suddenly without an apparent reason.R – Resistant to soothing: Usual calming methods may not work.P – Pain-like face: Babies may appear as if in pain, even when they are not.L – Long lasting: Crying spells can last for hours in a day.E – Evening: Crying often increases in the late afternoon or evening.When you understand each aspect, you can approach the situation with patience instead of panic.Why Does the PURPLE Phase Happen?This stage is closely tied to your baby's developing brain and adapting to the world. Babies are learning how to calm themselves, and crying is their primary way of expressing needs or discomfort.It is important to know:It is not a reflection of your care.It does not harm your baby’s long-term well-being.Almost all babies go through it to some degree.How to Cope During the PURPLE PhaseWhile you cannot prevent this stage, you can manage it with practical steps:1. Create a Calming EnvironmentDim the lights and lower the background noise.Hold your baby close in a gentle swaddle.Use soft humming or rhythmic sounds.2. Movement and ComfortRocking, walking, or slow bouncing can bring comfort.Taking your baby for a short walk in a stroller or pram can be beneficial.Some babies find calm in a gentle, warm bath.3. Feed and Burp RegularlyOffer feeds frequently, as hunger may trigger crying.Burp after every feed to release trapped air.4. Take Care of YourselfSwitch turns with your partner or family member.If overwhelmed, place your baby safely in a cot and take a few minutes to calm yourself.Remember, your calmness often helps soothe your baby.5. Trust Routine but Stay FlexibleEstablish feeding and sleeping patterns gradually.Accept that some days will look different, and that is normal.Myths Around Crying You Should AvoidIn India, many well-meaning relatives may offer advice rooted in tradition. Some may say frequent crying means the baby is stubborn or that you are not feeding enough. It is important to separate myths from facts:Myth: Crying is always due to hunger.Fact: Crying has many triggers, including overstimulation or tiredness.Myth: Carrying your baby too much will spoil them.Fact: Holding your baby provides a sense of security and helps regulate emotions.Myth: Home remedies can stop all crying.Fact: Some remedies may not be safe; focus on comfort and care instead.When to Seek Medical HelpAlthough PURPLE crying is normal, you should consult a doctor if you notice:Crying with fever, diarrhoea, or vomiting.Signs of illness, such as rashes or breathing difficulties.Your instinct tells you something feels unusual.Never hesitate to seek advice. Doctors are there to reassure and guide you.How Long Does It Last?The PURPLE crying phase usually:Starts around 2 weeks of age.Peaks by 6-8 weeks.Gradually reduces by 3-4 months.After this period, your baby is more settled, sleep improves, and crying reduces.Supporting Yourself During This PhaseCaring for a crying baby is draining. Rest when possible—even short naps help.Eat balanced meals to maintain your strength.Share responsibilities with your family wherever possible.Connect with support groups, whether local mothers’ circles or online parenting communities.Your emotional health is as important as your baby’s comfort.Key Takeaways for New ParentsThe PURPLE crying phase is a temporary and normal part of development.You cannot always stop the crying, but you can support and comfort your baby.Myths should not guide your decisions—trust medical advice and your instincts.Caring for yourself is essential in helping your baby through this stage.The PURPLE crying phase may feel endless, but it is just one chapter of early parenthood. By understanding it and learning how to manage, you gain patience and confidence.Every cry is a step in your baby’s growth and a reminder of the deep bond you are building. Remember, this phase will pass, and what remains will be your resilience, love, and memories of your baby’s earliest months.Whether you’re pregnant, a new mom, or navigating postpartum, you don’t have to do it alone. Join our support group to connect, share, and support one another.FAQs on A Simple Guide for New Parents to Understand the PURPLE Phase of Crying
  1. Can all babies go through the PURPLE crying phase?
    Not all babies cry in the same way, but most will experience increased crying in the first few months of life.
  2. Does the PURPLE phase mean something is wrong with the baby’s digestion?
    No. While digestion can cause discomfort, the PURPLE phase is typically associated with natural development, rather than illness.
  3. Can carrying my baby during this phase make them dependent on being held?
    No. Babies feel safe when held, and it does not create long-term dependence.
  4. What is the best way to know if my baby’s crying is beyond the PURPLE phase?
    If crying continues beyond 4-5 months or is accompanied by other symptoms, consult a paediatrician.
Disclaimer: Medically approved by Dr Shweta Mendiratta, Associate Clinical Director – Obstetrics & Gynaecology, Marengo Asia Hospitals Faridabad